This is my
second edition of the reasons why we kill ourselves in the first one I focused
on our life style that is driving us away from being the humans that we are
supposed to be and leading us to slow death with a mechanical pace!
However
today my main focus is something a bit different but it is the first reason why
humans are killing themselves daily and as always I am only using myself and
the people around me as a guide to this article and this is my personal point
of view so you may agree or disagree and that’s your right as it is my right to
write and express my opinion.
We live in
the 21st century, the era of technology and inventions, we are using
technology in our everyday life sometimes we use only technology and that made
our lives easier, way easier to be honest and nobody can argue with that, but
being the human beings that we are, we still need human interaction and as much
as we are trying to hide it or cover it, we crave it and it is what keeps us
going despite all the issues, headaches and hurt it bring us.
Human
relations are filled with lies, deceit and betrayal. That’s true and that’s the
main reason most of us are trying as hard as they can to avoid it and hide from
it. We try to be heartless to cover our emotions and repress them, and we
really hate for our hearts (or for rational people our emotional side of the
brain) to control us. So we run away, we hide from human interaction as much as
we can and whenever we feel the tiniest possibility that we will get hurt from
this experience we choose the safest option and we kill it before we try it. We
decide it is better not to live anything than to live something that may or may
not hurt us. We get so wrapped up in this way of thinking that when we leave it
for a bit and try something new we put all of our hopes in it, expecting it to
be perfect while waiting for it to go sideways. We wait for it to be perfect
without knowing that in everything and anything there are moments of hurt or
doubt, we expect it to be perfect without working to make it so. We wait for it
to go sideways ruining by that any chance for it to work, we wait for it to go
sideways and we make ourselves worry so much that we don’t even enjoy the good
things happening and we transfer bad vibes to the other person. Worrying, “worrying
is stupid, it is like holding an umbrella waiting for it to rain” on a sunny
day and we miss the chance to enjoy the sun.
We kill ourselves
because we are so scared of being hurt that we don’t want to take adventures or
try new things, we kill ourselves because instead of going all in we keep that
safe distance in fear of regretting and we kill ourselves because every time an
opportunity comes to us we overthink it until it goes away.
We
overthink everything and anything, we give it a lot of thoughts, we assess the
situation and we count the advantages and the disadvantages, we build a
strategy and especially a way out, like going to war! Well, I hate to break it
down to you, human relations aren’t war and they are not supposed to be. They
are supposed to be this beautiful thing that makes our lives way better.
In our
search not to be hurt anymore, we wish we could be heartless and live without
emotions but none of us knows the meaning of not being able to feel a goddamn
thing your entire life, some of us lived their lives without being able to love
and they can tell you it is the worst gift you can ever get (and I called it
gift because people tell me you have the gift of not loving).
When was
the last time you had the courage to go into something you are not sure about
whether it is going to be perfect or not?
When was
the last time you took the chance to assess a relationship from within and not
be scared and shut it down before trying?
When was
the last time you had a relationship really great and powerful and you didn’t spend
half the time worrying that one day it is going to end and how you will feel then?
When was
the last time you didn’t use your pride as an excuse to ask that person you
like out, to call that person that you missed or to confess your feelings to someone?
When was
the last time you didn’t overthink a relationship and went all in and lived the
adventure ad then assessed what is happening?
We do not
feel that the others may get us and we forget that probably they are going
through the same thing like we are. We doubt everything and that’s human but doubting
and being afraid is inevitable however do we have the courage to face that
fear, use it and still do the thing we are thinking about or not? That’s the question.
Go for it,
love and live your life! Get hurt few times and live happy most of the time!
Call that
person you missed even if they didn’t miss you, confess your feelings even if
you get turned down, and go into that relationship you doubt even if you get
hurt in the end. Live your lives people because those adventures and those
feelings from love to the state of being hurt is what make us feel alive, it is
what makes us humans.
If you are afraid
to get hurt well it is simple: Make the high worth the pain.
W.H
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