Reasons why we kill ourselves 2

This is my second edition of the reasons why we kill ourselves in the first one I focused on our life style that is driving us away from being the humans that we are supposed to be and leading us to slow death with a mechanical pace!

However today my main focus is something a bit different but it is the first reason why humans are killing themselves daily and as always I am only using myself and the people around me as a guide to this article and this is my personal point of view so you may agree or disagree and that’s your right as it is my right to write and express my opinion.

We live in the 21^st century, the era of technology and inventions, we are using technology in our everyday life sometimes we use only technology and that made our lives easier, way easier to be honest and nobody can argue with that, but being the human beings that we are, we still need human interaction and as much as we are trying to hide it or cover it, we crave it and it is what keeps us going despite all the issues, headaches and hurt it bring us.

Human relations are filled with lies, deceit and betrayal. That’s true and that’s the main reason most of us are trying as hard as they can to avoid it and hide from it. We try to be heartless to cover our emotions and repress them, and we really hate for our hearts (or for rational people our emotional side of the brain) to control us. So we run away, we hide from human interaction as much as we can and whenever we feel the tiniest possibility that we will get hurt from this experience we choose the safest option and we kill it before we try it. We decide it is better not to live anything than to live something that may or may not hurt us. We get so wrapped up in this way of thinking that when we leave it for a bit and try something new we put all of our hopes in it, expecting it to be perfect while waiting for it to go sideways. We wait for it to be perfect without knowing that in everything and anything there are moments of hurt or doubt, we expect it to be perfect without working to make it so. We wait for it to go sideways ruining by that any chance for it to work, we wait for it to go sideways and we make ourselves worry so much that we don’t even enjoy the good things happening and we transfer bad vibes to the other person. Worrying, “worrying is stupid, it is like holding an umbrella waiting for it to rain” on a sunny day and we miss the chance to enjoy the sun.

We kill ourselves because we are so scared of being hurt that we don’t want to take adventures or try new things, we kill ourselves because instead of going all in we keep that safe distance in fear of regretting and we kill ourselves because every time an opportunity comes to us we overthink it until it goes away.

We overthink everything and anything, we give it a lot of thoughts, we assess the situation and we count the advantages and the disadvantages, we build a strategy and especially a way out, like going to war! Well, I hate to break it down to you, human relations aren’t war and they are not supposed to be. They are supposed to be this beautiful thing that makes our lives way better.

In our search not to be hurt anymore, we wish we could be heartless and live without emotions but none of us knows the meaning of not being able to feel a goddamn thing your entire life, some of us lived their lives without being able to love and they can tell you it is the worst gift you can ever get (and I called it gift because people tell me you have the gift of not loving).

When was the last time you had the courage to go into something you are not sure about whether it is going to be perfect or not?

When was the last time you took the chance to assess a relationship from within and not be scared and shut it down before trying?

When was the last time you had a relationship really great and powerful and you didn’t spend half the time worrying that one day it is going to end and how you will feel then?

When was the last time you didn’t use your pride as an excuse to ask that person you like out, to call that person that you missed or to confess your feelings to someone?

When was the last time you didn’t overthink a relationship and went all in and lived the adventure ad then assessed what is happening?

We do not feel that the others may get us and we forget that probably they are going through the same thing like we are. We doubt everything and that’s human but doubting and being afraid is inevitable however do we have the courage to face that fear, use it and still do the thing we are thinking about or not? That’s the question.

Go for it, love and live your life! Get hurt few times and live happy most of the time!

Call that person you missed even if they didn’t miss you, confess your feelings even if you get turned down, and go into that relationship you doubt even if you get hurt in the end. Live your lives people because those adventures and those feelings from love to the state of being hurt is what make us feel alive, it is what makes us humans.

If you are afraid to get hurt well it is simple: Make the high worth the pain.

                                                                                                                  W.H

Reasons why we kill ourselves

I may talk about reasons, only five reasons why we kill ourselves a little more but to hell with the pattern to hell with the structure. Each day we kill ourselves a little bit more and it is a sad thing if you take a closer look at it. We do all the things that destroy our body: Hell we smoke and that makes us breath harder, move slower gives us cancer and makes our bodies weaker. We drink, killing by that millions of cell in our minds and destroying our livers. We sleep less than we used to when we were younger, weakening by that our bodies, making them more vulnerable to diseases and tiring our minds and our eyes. We spend too much time in front of our TVs and laptops, killing by that multiple things, our sight, our minds and our social life. We are becoming lazier each day, no more reading, no more searching for information, one click on your laptop or your smart phone and here there are all the information you will ever need, use Wikipedia or search that on Google and it will give you all that you ever tried to search for. We are becoming lazy, because we don't talk anymore we chat on Facebook or by our smart phones: viber, voxer, wechat, whatsapp and the list goes on. We are becoming lazy because we don't walk anymore, we have cars that will take us wherever we want or wherever we don't. We are becoming lazy because we don't run or exercise, we are too weak to do that, we are becoming lazy because we don't think anymore we wait for everything to be solved by itself. Think and ask yourself when was the last time you did a quiz that demands concentration and mental effort and that wasn't a game on your laptop or your smart phone. We are becoming lazier because we don't want to make efforts we want easy stuff. We don't read books and enjoy touching papers, we download pdf files. We don't write anymore using a paper and a pen, we have docs or notes on our laptops and smart phones, excel files and e-agendas. We are killing our selves because we don't like living it the old way and people are giving their children smart phones since they are three, depriving them from going out, we are too scared to let them injure themselves we hate to see them have a scar or cry, so we watch them all the time and force them to do it however we want not knowing that we are killing them. We are killing ourselves because we like to eat junky food and to poison our stomachs. We are killing ourselves because it is easy to let machines or other people do the hard work for us than to do it ourselves. Hell, we don't even clean our cars on our own. We kill ourselves because we don't scream, we communicate. We don't fight we argue. We don't make efforts, we try. We kill ourselves, because we don't live the moments we record them, we kill ourselves because we don't experience new things, we don't enjoy the little things, we don't live our lives to the fullest, we don't love and hate, we don't cheer and cry, we don't live and die. It is all virtual, it is all a tragedy. We don't move around and seek beauty, search for amazing stuff, explore the nature, color our days with cheerful colors. We try to live, actually we don't live, we survive. We kill ourselves by being the new modern human. We kill ourselves be trying to fit in. We kill ourselves by ourselves and we are happy about it not knowing that we are ruining our lives. We kill ourselves by being what we always hated. We kill ourselves by being who we are now. it is a tragedy, it is a disaster and it is too late to wake up because we are half way in the catastrophe and we are not aware. The only hope is to tell that to the people after us and to try to show them the example by giving ourselves a chance to love, by being what we are, by living our lives the way it should be. By being humans...

                                                                                                     W.H